My Low-Maintenance Guy
Guys are weird.
There’s just no getting around it.
They don’t talk about their feelings.
They don’t take hints.
They routinely miss what we’re trying to say.
They get annoyed when anybody tries to help them.
But they’ll take a bullet for you. And that may just be the coolest thing ever.
1 Corinthians 11:7 A man is made in God’s image and reflects God’s glory.
This is in a passage contrasting men and women. (Who, by the way, are BOTH very cool.)
The King James says that man “is the image and glory of God.”
What does that mean?
I used to read a lot of Tom Clancy. Some of it was a little too graphic for me, but I’m a fan of action adventures and tight, mathematical plots. If you’re a literary buff, you know that Clancey and Jane Austen have this is common. They always wrap up every loose end, and bring them all together in a fantastic finale. But don’t tell your guy that.
Anyway, one thing I noticed. Every time drug pirates or terrorists wanted to torture a man, they made them watch them harm his wife.
We have 5 children. And my amazing, low-maintenance guy suffered tremendously when I was in labor. At first, I was like, “Oh, puh-leeze…” And then I realized something. He would have been much happier actually delivering the baby, than to see me uncomfortable and feel helpless to fix it.
And that is exactly how guys are just like God. It’s hard-wired into them.
Several years ago, when there were shootings in movie theaters in Colorado, many men died. Most of them saved the life of their wife or girlfriend by covering her, instinctively, with their own bodies. Christian or not. It’s hard-wired into them.
And that’s love.
In God’s amazing design, men, at their best, have qualities that mirror God. Hard-wired in.
And women, at their best, have qualities that mirror the perfect church. How humans should react to God. Hard-wired in.
Neither is superior; the rest of I Corinthians 11 points that out graphically.
But we need each other.
And, together, we’re a perfect visual aid for what God wants in a much more important arena than marriage: our relationship with him.
My husband has supported me through thick and thin, through revisions, changes and re-inventions of who I am. He, quite simply, is happy if I am happy.
And pretty easy to get along witth. All I actually have to do is figure out what I want and be happy. He will go to the ends of the earth to make it happen.
I heard a famous doctor and his assistant speaking about the male and female brain.
The assistant said something like this:
“Ladies, you know that feeling you get when you see a baby?
How your heart just melts and you would do whatever it needed?
Men don’t get that.
They just don’t.
We all knew that. But she went on.
Men get that feeling when the women they love…
smiles at them.
I don’t think she knew how much she rocked my world that day.
A little secret. Your man is happy…when you are truly happy.
In the bedroom. And out of it.
So find your peace. And be happy.
It will bless him. Because he’s made in the image of God.
And God actually, truly, deeply loves you.